Come together with your neighbors and friends to watch the #MessyTruth!
Share what you thought of the special and what you learned.
Ready to have a #MessyTruth conversation of your own?
Our challenge to you is to talk to a friend or family member who has different political views than you have. Be curious. Ask questions about anything that doesn’t sound right to you. But don’t just fight back. Try to listen. Be passionate, but be compassionate, too.
In The Messy Truth, Van Jones sets an example for how we might begin to have these conversations. There's no magic formula for finding common ground, but these might help:
Listen with empathy: Give your full, undivided attention and listen deeply. Try to understand where they’re coming from. Look the person in the eye, listen with your whole body. Don’t just think about the next thing you want to say or how to win the debate. Don’t be judgemental - even if you strongly disagree, hear them out. See this as an opportunity to do some research and learn something new. You’re just trying to understand. Try repeating back what they said and see if you got it right. Give them a chance to clarify and make sure you understand.
Speak authentically: Speak authentically and honestly about your feelings. Share your views but don’t just regurgitate talking points. What are your hopes? What are your fears? Why is it important to you to talk to them about this?
Expect to be surprised: Be curious. Don’t assume you already know what they’re going to say. Don’t assume you understand them. Give them the opportunity to surprise you.
Make a plan: Ask a friend to support you. Make a plan with them about who you might talk to, where you’ll meet, how you’ll start and end the conversation. Maybe even practice. Get together again after you have your conversation to debrief what happened.
Be comfortable with silence: Silence is ok. It will give you a chance to gather your thoughts, reflect, and be intentional about how the conversation continues.
Breathe: If you feel yourself getting upset or frustrated, don’t forget to breathe.
Know your limits: Don’t push yourself too far. Know when you’re triggered. Take a deep breath or go to the bathroom. If you aren’t able to get centered again, have a plan to wrap up the conversation. If you’re able, continue it another time. Don’t push yourself so far that the conversation ends up creating more division.
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Van Jones hosts a live audience discussion about the recent election with a focus on social justice issues that are likely to arise in a Trump presidency.
The Messy Truth 3/16/17 -Chris Collins, Kareem Abdul-Jabbar
The Messy Truth 3/8/17 - Trevor Noah
The Messy Truth 2/10/17- Bill Marr
The Messy Truth 1/25/17- Whoopi Goldberg
The Messy Truth 1/11/17- Heather McGhee-Garry, Carly Fiorina, Jennifer Granholm
The Messy Truth 12/6/16- Michael Moore, Rick Santorum, Anna Navarro